I feel like there is so much pressure and focus these day on being the perfect parent.. the perfect mother. Perfect wife. Perfect homemaker. Just PERFECT. But what in the heck does perfect even mean? Does it mean to never make a mistake? To never raise your voice? To never get upset? To never cry or feel like a failure? To never fight with your husband and never EVER have a messy home or a sink full of dishes? Does it mean that your laundry is perfectly folded and put away immediately after drying? Well.. I’m here to say right now that these ideas of “perfect” are not real! Pheww!!! I hope I’m not the only one to breath a big sigh of relief.. Because if you saw my house right now (laundry a mountain high, barely recognizable floor underneath the plethora of toys, my dirty hair on top of my head just typing my little heart away in my comfy sweats pulled up above my belly button).. you’d realize that this girl doesn’t fit into even one of those areas of that idea of perfect. And to be honest, I’m a glad! If I was “perfect” like that I wouldn’t ever have time to enjoy my kids or take a nice bath.. and I’d actually probably be a robot.
We need to take the focus off of “perfect” and put it on love and acceptance. To love the life you’re living now and to accept the things you cannot change. Love the maze of toys you have to walk through because your kids are having an absolute blast, and accept that clean up can wait because you’re going to join in on the fun. Love. Acceptance. I think I like that a lot better than “perfect”. What do you think?I’ve heard about this amazing book called Present Over Perfect. I think we all need to give it a read!
I’m finally coming out of my crappy week and I’ve come to realize that my idea of perfect is so much better than the worlds idea of perfect. My perfect includes joining my kids in bath time. Making the decision to nix making dinner and order pizza instead. To know that my husband still loves the crap out of me even when I look like a 12 year old boy. We all have our strengths and we all have our weaknesses. We all have areas we succeed in and areas we struggle with. If we focus on the things that don’t fit in with the worlds idea of perfect, we will never be able to enjoy the perfect that is actually, really, truly happening under our noses. We are breathing. We are living. You are you and no one else can be you like you can. You are amazing. Be your own kind of perfect and love that way you do it.
Each day I learn to love “my perfect” and I feel myself happier. I feel myself smiling more often and yelling less! I know the things I struggle with and I know that as I love myself, my struggles might actually one day become my strengths.
Be you because YOU are your own beautiful kind of perfect.